View Full Version : Sacrificing happiness for money.
RoccoRock
07-26-2012, 04:52 PM
I love my job, I work alone, no one, not even the boss, or owner bother me. I am only here 8 hours a day, and I can usually get my work done in 4, leaving me plenty of time to do what I want, including going around the block and bowling a few games. So a friend of my wifes comes to me and asks me if I want a job working with her husband. It's a night job, 12 hours a day, 5pm to 5am. The money is really good. Even though I would start by making less $ an hour, with OT I will make a little more. Once I get my CDL, I will make a lot more. Here's the catch, it would most likely make me miserable. I have no desire to drive a truck for a living, and I definitely do not want those hours. I would be home with my daughter during the day, but I would be sleeping, or trying to sleep. So I would probably have to put her in daycare anyway. Then I wouldn't be home during the night, so I would never see my kid. Plus, working nights means I would not be able to bowl in my league. I guess I am going to turn the job down, but I can't get over the fact that I am turning down such good money, and in such a bad economy. Most people would say "grow up, most people hate thier jobs, and you have to sacrifice to provide for your family." I do plan on talking to my boss, and getting a raise at my current job, but it still wont be anywhere near what I can make by leaving. It's gonna be tough to call this guy and tell him no. Should I just suck it up, and be miserable?
backahead
07-26-2012, 05:50 PM
I love my job, I work alone, no one, not even the boss, or owner bother me. I am only here 8 hours a day, and I can usually get my work done in 4, leaving me plenty of time to do what I want, including going around the block and bowling a few games. So a friend of my wifes comes to me and asks me if I want a job working with her husband. It's a night job, 12 hours a day, 5pm to 5am. The money is really good. Even though I would start by making less $ an hour, with OT I will make a little more. Once I get my CDL, I will make a lot more. Here's the catch, it would most likely make me miserable. I have no desire to drive a truck for a living, and I definitely do not want those hours. I would be home with my daughter during the day, but I would be sleeping, or trying to sleep. So I would probably have to put her in daycare anyway. Then I wouldn't be home during the night, so I would never see my kid. Plus, working nights means I would not be able to bowl in my league. I guess I am going to turn the job down, but I can't get over the fact that I am turning down such good money, and in such a bad economy. Most people would say "grow up, most people hate thier jobs, and you have to sacrifice to provide for your family." I do plan on talking to my boss, and getting a raise at my current job, but it still wont be anywhere near what I can make by leaving. It's gonna be tough to call this guy and tell him no. Should I just suck it up, and be miserable?
Hmm, "mankind are more predisposed to suffering" Dec of Independence. I use that line in my life all the time. Our founders rule! However, in your situation I would not sacrifice my relationship with daughter to make a few more bucks. Money comes and goes, doesn't matter how much you make. Good luck bud.
got_a_300
07-26-2012, 06:00 PM
I have to say no don't do it don't give up your happiness for a for
few or maybe quite a few dollars more money isn't everything in
this old world.
I like you had a job one time with no one around to tell me what
to do or bother me at all. I didn't even have to punch in or out the
Foreman did that for me at the main plant the only time I saw anyone
was when the truck came to pick up the pants legs and restock with
the new legs once a week and bring my paycheck to me.
The job I had was spraying some sealer on the legs and hanging them
up on a shaker system to dry before they were sent to be made into blue
jeans. I could come and go as I pleased I'd have all my days work done in
about 2 - 4 hours then I could leave or do what ever I wanted.
I got to wanting more money myself so I quit to go to a better paying job
and that was the biggest mistake I think I have ever made in the job market.
RoccoRock
07-26-2012, 06:36 PM
Yeah, no punching in or out for me. Heck, as long as UPS picks up all the packages, I can leave whenever I want. Yeah, tough to give that up. My wife agrees with me, the moneys nice, but there are more important things.
ursus
07-26-2012, 08:13 PM
I think you have made up your mind on staying and are looking for some reassurance that it is a good choice for you. Do what makes you happy and gets you quality time with the family
RoccoRock
07-26-2012, 08:32 PM
I just got off the phone with the guy. He wants me to come work with him on a Saturday to see if I like it. Seems like he won't give up. It's nice to be wanted.
Hot_pocket
07-26-2012, 09:09 PM
i work in the security field and i sometimes have to work nights so i know how it is i even sometimes would work 56hr work weeks meaning i didnt get to spend much time with my daughter who is only 1. In you situation i wouldn't do it you seem to be doing just fine at your current job if you can still live good and provide with the job you already have then stay happy.
billf
07-26-2012, 11:32 PM
I left the Army so I could see my daughter grow up. I saw her birth a two days later went to the Gulf. Next time I saw her she was walking. After I worked a couple of jobs and ended up being a Service Manager at an auto repair shop. I worked a ton of hours and made a crap load of money. It never mattered how much or how little money I made, it was never enough. It's amazing how you can adapt to whatever salary you are making. I gave up managing and went back to wrenching. It gave me the time to spend with my daughter without being stressed out to the max. Now amazingly, I'm looking for a job that would allow me to coach the high school team even if that means making a little less money. Time is money but there is no amount that is worth missing any part of seeing your daughter grow up.
My dad was a truck driver, long haul. I saw him two days every two weeks. We weren't close at all and I think that was a big part of it.
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