any advice on how to deal with a jerk during league

[coreyds012778]

only two weeks in to league, these guy has already made a bad name for himself. pretty much call the league secretary a layer over what avg our handicap is based on, my wife (who is the the league president) stepped in on that. then these week he accused my wife of sandbagging. she really is not a good bowler right now (she is consistent, do to her weight loss her thumb hole is too large) . next week me and my team bowl his. I really want to slap the dude.

really been 3 weeks counting the league meeting.

[mc_runner]

Beat him on the lanes. Best way to shut em up is to let your game do the talking. It might also be worth it to pull him aside and let him know that you're really not happy with his behavior and it's not appropriate or acceptable. If you do this make it clear you're going to stay and he'll have to either deal with it or just be miserable.

I've also just been friendly and kind to people, or play it off if someone acts like that. Act like they're joking and smile... usually it diffuses everything pretty quick and people settle down. Although this guy sounds like a special brand of jerk...

edit: I really don't understand people who are hostile to new teams. With bowling in the state it is, people should be thrilled when a new team comes in. Just because someone's got a low average because they are new doesn't mean they are sandbagging, ugh. That's a nice way to alienate someone just getting into bowling and discourage them from taking up the pasttime!

[coreyds012778]

from what I under stand about him, he just moved to the area a few months ago. so not that many people know him. before my dad decided to get back into bowling. we where talking about me teaming up with him. glad I did not go that route.

he is bowling in 3 or 4 leagues (if not more). so who knows how he is with the others.

as for me and my dad beating his team. me and my dad have an 120 combined handicap. the jerk is a 212 book avg bowler his wife has an 100+handicap. i have a mental flaw when I bowl people that get on my nerves. I trying too hard and end up bowling bad. how we get lanes with people I like beside us. keep me loose and having fun. lol

[Blomer]

Just do your thing. Don't let it get to you! I know it's not as easy as it sounds. There were a few I couldn't stand last yr and when they acted out I just gave them the wtf look and then he ignored me. Lol. Unfortunately there is always someone who's going to be that guy!

[coreyds012778]

if I can bowl consistent like I have all week. stay focused and don't get wild. not much can throw me off. bowled during a glow ball and keep with in the same scores I been posting. i can tune out an loud mouth that wants to start stuff.

think the black light, lasers, and the rap music would throw me off lmao

[Amyers]

There are always adverse conditions of some type treat this guy the same as a slick approach or a transitioning lane. Work around it and don't let him get to you.

[coreyds012778]

good chance I be beside someone I can talk to, it is only a 10 team league.

did get a chance to talk to a few guys that bowl on other leagues, they jerk as I call him. bowls in two or three other leagues. he is being a pain to them too.

[coreyds012778]

i have a mental flaw when I bowl people that get on my nerves. I trying too hard and end up bowling bad

yeap had to happen.

first off, they keep changing the pace. they would get up bowling wait like normal, then bowl. next two frames rush throw, make us. at one point they where talking to there landlord in the middle of the 2nd game. I was getting so mad, that I could not keep my games together. then at the 3rd game, finally get into a pace of game play I am use too. ugh.

oh well, still early in the season, have to prebowl tomorrow because I be on vacation. just me and my dad. my wife has to prebowl tomorrow too. too bad we did not draw each other.