It sounds like your mom is doing what my dad did before he passed away. It is very hard to see someone you love refuse to eat or drink, and you have my deepest sympathies.
My mom, my sister, and a series of full time caretakers seemed to spend every moment that dad was awake trying to get him to eat or drink. I decided that since there were already three people trying this, when I visited, I would talk about anything but food or drink.
My advice, and this is extremely difficult for someone with children of their own, is to let the hospice workers worry about getting your mom to eat and drink. Your job is to be a loving daughter. Talk to her about your kids and grand kids, bowling, the Rangers, gardening, etc. Try and limit yourself to one nag per visit to show that you're on the aides side about eating and drinking.
Your mom knows on some level that the Lord is getting ready to call her home. The best thing that you can do for her is let her know that her family loves her and that they are going to be fine.
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