Recent Lack of Good Etiquette

[josheaton16]

I suppose i understand how a two lane courtesy is different than one lane. . . but at the same time i still don't see the point. Somebody two lanes away should not effect your shot. If that is the rules of the tournament then it is what it is, everyone should follow them. I've never bowled in a tournament with two lane courtesy so i can't really speak from experience. As for trash talking, I do it with my teammates but never with the other team, unless they start it lol

[RoccoRock]

Wow, lighten up some.

I apologize if my post came off a little aggressive, I didn't mean to offend. All I'm saying is it's real easy to say other people are fragile, and you shouldn't get distracted when it's not happening to you. It's also a case of how you look at the game. People in my old league couldn't understand why I was upset with 180 games. For most of them, that's a good game. But when you practice 100 games a week, that's not a good game. It's the same with distractions, when you don't care about the game, or the results, then what does it matter if someone bowls st the same time you do. It's also very difficult to get in someones head, and know what they are thinking. Everyone loves to play psychotherapist, and think that they know what others are thinking and feeling, and how it effects them. I had a friend who would make comments about my game. I would have a tough game, and get mad about it. He would tell me your bowling bad because your mad. Noooo, I'm mad because I'm bowling bad, big difference. Then I would break out a 240 while I was "bowling mad" and he could never explain that. At this point I'm just used to it, everyone thinks they know better, everyone thinks they are smarter, and they think they can get in your head.

It's also real easy to just say "stop your approach." That depends on when the distraction happens, sometimes it's just not possible. Wes Malott was distracted at the Maters this year as he was releasing the ball that he needed to have a chance to win. He couldn't stop, and in a post match interview blamed the distraction for him losing. And not everyone knows those names off the top of their head, that's why I pointed out who they were. Maybe someone else needs to chill a little. LOL!!!!!!!

[classygranny]

I'm pretty sure that if someone does what I've mentioned during a PBA event, there are actual rules against it. For instance, if you continually ignore lane courtesy rules, you will be fined. You cannot mess with other people while they bowl. If you are friends with someone and it's mutual and accept between the two of you, go for it. But when it's with someone you don't know, trash talk and stuff is technically against USBC rules. Just because it's not generally enforced (Or called out on as being against the rules) doesn't make it acceptable.

I never said it was acceptable, nor did I intend to imply that it was...merely stating that A-holes are a part of life in general. And I was trying to make the point that there are rules...in PBA events, in tournaments, in league, in life...AND there are ways to enforce them - fines, tournament directors, league presidents/sergeant of arms, police enforcement, human resources, etc. I was merely pointing out that A-holes have a way of being dealt with - and only ourselves can control our game. If it bothers or distracts you - DO something about it.

I suppose i understand how a two lane courtesy is different than one lane. . . but at the same time i still don't see the point. Somebody two lanes away should not effect your shot. If that is the rules of the tournament then it is what it is, everyone should follow them. I've never bowled in a tournament with two lane courtesy so i can't really speak from experience. As for trash talking, I do it with my teammates but never with the other team, unless they start it lol

I would agree that the disruption of the two lane courtesy disrupts the "flow" of the bowling, and is sometimes difficult to deal with. We should all have had some degree of dealing with this in our normal course of bowling...ie, lane break-downs, slow players, one-lane courtesy jumpers, "social butterflies-talk more than bowl", and I could go on-and-on. We learn to adjust, adapt and deal with these things so they don't control our game, and we control our own game.

[GoodGravy]

I GRANNY second that!!!

Also, if you don't like what's being said, JUST WALK AWAY. Simple, easy, diplomatic - they get the point of "I don't want to talk". I do this even when I am bowling poorly just to regroup my thought process.

If it's a tournament, they should have explained the rules. Someone not abiding, let the tournament directors handle the issue.

I GRANNY Third that!!!

[Gunz1911]

My summer league is a 2 lane courtesy. First night I went, thought most of the time it was only one lane. Watched how everyone else was doing it so played "follow the leader." I do have to say, two lane is nicer. No Peripheral vision to "maybe" throw me off for a split second. I'm not sure if its a cause of "ohh Shiney" or training that when I notice something out of the corner of my eye near me, I instantly register and know its there. Which in some cases can throw off my approach and make me miss my mark.

However, My summer league (and only league I have ever done) is all for social and fun. No one that I have bowled against takes it super seriouse and no one on my team gets supper annoyed (except at themselves for bowling bad). Maybe I should tell my wife to start "jinkxing" me during practice so I can over come it in leagues. Get 4 strikes and have her start harping on me not to mess up.

[snugbucco]

I had a 300 game going till the 9th and this guy who I wasn't even bowling with came over and nudged and rocked me back and forth and whipped a towel in my face. Lol got to learn to stay focus I have never and still don't blame that guy I should of been more headstrong.