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[got_a_300]

Not sure if I'm even going to bowl this fall at our local center
as tonight was our last night on Thursday so I packed up most
all of my equipment and brought it home with me except for 4
balls I still have in the locker.

One of the main reasons I'm seriously thinking about not bowling
there any longer is the owner really, really pissed me off tonight
with what he said to my fiancee he told her she needed to get down
there and practice during the 10 minute practice as she needed it
because she wasn't that good of a bowler.

This was her first time bowling in a league and he really hurt her
feelings saying that to her as she does her best, yeah maybe she
only has a 99 average but she has been trying hard all summer.

Now she says that she never wants to bowl again because of what
he said to her if she had told me earlier instead of waiting until we
were done bowling I would probably have got thrown out because
I would have went off on him right then and there and that is why
she waited until we were done bowling.

I will be going out there tomorrow to get the rest of my equipment
out of there and I'll be telling him a thing or two and if he gets to
smart back I'll probably end up in jail before its all done and said.

[MICHAEL]

Not sure if I'm even going to bowl this fall at our local center
as tonight was our last night on Thursday so I packed up most
all of my equipment and brought it home with me except for 4
balls I still have in the locker.

One of the main reasons I'm seriously thinking about not bowling
there any longer is the owner really, really pissed me off tonight
with what he said to my fiancee he told her she needed to get down
there and practice during the 10 minute practice as she needed it
because she wasn't that good of a bowler.

This was her first time bowling in a league and he really hurt her
feelings saying that to her as she does her best, yeah maybe she
only has a 99 average but she has been trying hard all summer.

Now she says that she never wants to bowl again because of what
he said to her if she had told me earlier instead of waiting until we
were done bowling I would probably have got thrown out because
I would have went off on him right then and there and that is why
she waited until we were done bowling.

I will be going out there tomorrow to get the rest of my equipment
out of there and I'll be telling him a thing or two and if he gets to
smart back I'll probably end up in jail before its all done and said.

Wow,, I would be UPSET TOO!! I have a short fuse anyway, but try to keep it under control! I am getting better at it as I get FRICKEN OLDER LOL

It's sad that he hurt her feelings, maybe he should apology in person to her? You might ask him to do that! I hate to see you both pull out, especially if it was fun for both of you, and you like the establishment, and people you bowled with. Maybe he was trying to be helpful? If not then I don't blame you at all for being upset, along with your honey bun!

There is a fine line between being hurtful, and helpful, some don't have the finesse, or know how in some cases.

I would tell him face to face how upset YOU, and your sweetheart are!

I would tell him he has two choices,, apologize and give her 7 free practice games, and a new Storm bowling ball, or your out of there.

I hope it all works out, especially if there are no other bowling lanes in your area.

Good luck,,, hopefully you can work it out!

[got_a_300]

I hope it all works out, especially if there are no other bowling lanes in your area.

Thanks MICHAEL for your support the next closest center is at least 40+
miles in any direction so looks like I'll be doing a lot of driving or just
setting around the house a lot if things don't work out.

I guess that I could always make the journey over to Plattsburg every
week to bowl as it's just several hundred miles each way. LOL!!!!! J/K

[Tony]

Not sure if I'm even going to bowl this fall at our local center
as tonight was our last night on Thursday so I packed up most
all of my equipment and brought it home with me except for 4
balls I still have in the locker.

One of the main reasons I'm seriously thinking about not bowling
there any longer is the owner really, really pissed me off tonight
with what he said to my fiancee he told her she needed to get down
there and practice during the 10 minute practice as she needed it
because she wasn't that good of a bowler.

I can understand her and in turn you being upset with the owner and I'm sure had I overheard the conversation I would have made some smart-*** remark.
The bad part is not hearing it, traditionally around where I bowl there is some trash talking and ribbing that goes on among most of the bowlers and it would not
be that uncommon for someone to say something like that among friends. On the other hand he could have been just being rude. You know how women take things sometimes, so without hearing it and not knowing the relationship between all of you it's hard to make a determination....
The bottom line is if it's worth quitting the place and switching to a new bowling center, I would say it's not. Maybe if you go down and calmly talk to the guy and let him know she was hurt by his remark, and let him explain ... he might offer to apologize, then decide what you're going to do. Even if he was being a crap weasel and is unapologetic, tell him if he speaks to her like that again he'll get a 10 pin up the axx and move on. IMHO it's not worth quitting the league and making it hard on yourself.
As for her, why let something a stranger/rude person ruin your day, tell them to go talk to someone who cares about what they have to say and enjoy your day.

[Amyers]

I can understand her and in turn you being upset with the owner and I'm sure had I overheard the conversation I would have made some smart-*** remark.
The bad part is not hearing it, traditionally around where I bowl there is some trash talking and ribbing that goes on among most of the bowlers and it would not
be that uncommon for someone to say something like that among friends. On the other hand he could have been just being rude. You know how women take things sometimes, so without hearing it and not knowing the relationship between all of you it's hard to make a determination....
The bottom line is if it's worth quitting the place and switching to a new bowling center, I would say it's not. Maybe if you go down and calmly talk to the guy and let him know she was hurt by his remark, and let him explain ... he might offer to apologize, then decide what you're going to do. Even if he was being a crap weasel and is unapologetic, tell him if he speaks to her like that again he'll get a 10 pin up the axx and move on. IMHO it's not worth quitting the league and making it hard on yourself.
As for her, why let something a stranger/rude person ruin your day, tell them to go talk to someone who cares about what they have to say and enjoy your day.

Tony you ever been married? I doubt he's going back unless he decides he likes those lanes better than her.

There is a big difference between the ribbing that goes on between guys that have bowled together on leagues for years and what you say to a newbie (especially of the female variety) Sorry if that's sexist girls but I was just brought up that their is the way you talk to the guys and the way you talk to the gals. Now if she shows she wants to join in I'll treat her the same way as everyone else but she has to show that initiative first and probably more than once before I hand it back. Maybe he was just fooling around but having fun with someone else's struggles isn't really a good way to motivate them.

[Tony]

Tony you ever been married? I doubt he's going back unless he decides he likes those lanes better than her.

There is a big difference between the ribbing that goes on between guys that have bowled together on leagues for years and what you say to a newbie (especially of the female variety) Sorry if that's sexist girls but I was just brought up that their is the way you talk to the guys and the way you talk to the gals. Now if she shows she wants to join in I'll treat her the same way as everyone else but she has to show that initiative first and probably more than once before I hand it back. Maybe he was just fooling around but having fun with someone else's struggles isn't really a good way to motivate them.

Yes, got married in 1985 , like I said I don't know the people and I would go talk to the guy but we're not going to let some ***'s comment ruin the day or cause us to quit. It's not worth it to me or her. I've been through a lot of different situations and I've learned that it's not worth it to punish them by quitting when they don't give a crap, I would just be punishing myself ....and why would I want to do that. I'd rather punish him by still going there and calling him Mr. Scum Bag every time I walk past him, trust me he will be bugged by that way more than my quitting would bug him. There is always the possibility I could trip while walking near him and spill pitcher of beer down his shirt or drop a bowling ball on his foot, accidents happen....
Just my take on it.

[Amyers]

Yes, got married in 1985 , like I said I don't know the people and I would go talk to the guy but we're not going to let some ***'s comment ruin the day or cause us to quit. It's not worth it to me or her. I've been through a lot of different situations and I've learned that it's not worth it to punish them by quitting when they don't give a crap, I would just be punishing myself ....and why would I want to do that. I'd rather punish him by still going there and calling him Mr. Scum Bag every time I walk past him, trust me he will be bugged by that way more than my quitting would bug him. There is always the possibility I could trip while walking near him and spill pitcher of beer down his shirt or drop a bowling ball on his foot, accidents happen....
Just my take on it.

LOL yeah I get that and if it was a person on the league would feel different but the owner of the house. Like you said don't know the backstory was probably trying be cute and failed epically but you just don't joke with newbies like that especially the females. Luckily for me if it had been my wife she wouldn't have told me about it afterwards I'd be trying to help her find a place to hide the body.

[billf]

The owner was out of line. Intentional or not. If it wasn't intentional then he over estimated his relationship with her.
pointed out that
Now for the sexist remarks...I coach a high school sophomore female that learned real quick I don't accept excuses and "I'm a girl" doesn't play with me.
Today a bunch of us practiced together. One of the guys knew to the group threw an awful ball and said, "I threw that like a girl!" Everybody just kond of gasped because bowling so many tournaments against males she hears girl comments all the time. She buried her shot, looked at him "You wish you could throw it like this girl" then pointed out that she is 5' 1" tall, 108 lbs and while he is obviously bigger she throws it much harder, with twice the revs. He ended up apologizing. She was fired up and I loved every second of it.

[J Anderson]

Wow, Summer leagues just ended, now Winter leagues begin!
How many are you guys bowling this year, what days, and times and cost,,,

It looks like three:

Monday: DV8 Challenge league, 7:30 p.m. $25, Has been 4 games per week, singles, scratch. Starts Sept 14
Wednesday: Welcome league, 9:00 p.m. $16, 3 games, doubles, 90% handicap, No prize fund, end of season banquet & trophies. Starts Sept 9
Thursday: Mixed Nuts league, 4:00 p.m. $20, 3 games, three person teams, 90% handicap, banquet, some trophies and prize fund. Starts September 3

All three at Nutmeg Bowl, Fairfield, CT

[MICHAEL]

It looks like three:

Monday: DV8 Challenge league, 7:30 p.m. $25, Has been 4 games per week, singles, scratch. Starts Sept 14
Wednesday: Welcome league, 9:00 p.m. $16, 3 games, doubles, 90% handicap, No prize fund, end of season banquet & trophies. Starts Sept 9
Thursday: Mixed Nuts league, 4:00 p.m. $20, 3 games, three person teams, 90% handicap, banquet, some trophies and prize fund. Starts September 3

All three at Nutmeg Bowl, Fairfield, CT

Looks like FUN! $25.00 bucks,,, ouch!!! Even $20.00 bucks....

Mine will be:

Tuesday, 8 bucks seniors league, prize money, 1pm. mixed league 4 person packed house all 24 lanes.

Wendsday evening league, that allows smoking, ( Which Iceman does not like, but I am bowling with a good friend and his wife, so I endure. I found that sticking two cigarette filters in my nostrils helps filter out much of the smell) Looks weird, but then I am! 5 person league mixed.

Thursday at the Godly Wood Lanes of Plattsburg, 37.5 miles one way from my house, 8 bucks,,, its for prize money, men's league, mostly Farm Boys, salt of the EARTH! Prize money is not much,,, but hey, it's only 8 bucks!

Friday, Seniors league, packed house all lanes used at Gladstone Bowl, 8 bucks, 1pm mixed 4person league. prize money.

total for 4 leagues per month...156 bucks a month! WHAT....don't tell my WIFE!!