The problem in non-league situations is that you have to walk a fine line. Nobody that loves the game wants to be the person that soured someone on bowling. And you always have to balance a good chance to teach about etiquette with a bad time to teach about etiquette. And how you do it, also plays a big part.
In retrospect, I should have politely asked her to leave the approach or just waited...depending on whether I felt she'd take my suggestion/request positively or negatively.
But you have to be careful. I remember teaching my daughter and her little friend one day during open bowling and one guy bowling next to us got agitated and said something to me to the effect of, "maybe you should also coach some etiquette!" Now, under other circumstances (not having 3 8-year old girls with me that I was responsible for)...that guy would have gotten a very, very negative reaction for his unnecessary comment. But, since I was bound by some responsibilities (and thus couldn't risk a confrontation that results in me getting arrested)...I simply apologized and tried to let the girls know that you need to wait while the people on the lanes next to you are finished, etc...
The problem was...the WAY that guy said it...he made the kids feel bad when that was really unnecessary. He could have simply taken me aside and mentioned it and no harm no foul. So, in retrospect, in my situation, I probably could have handled it differently and got the same message across.
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